Comments on: Can Flirting (Online or Otherwise) HELP Your Marriage? http://www.drwendywalsh.com/blog/2009/10/can-flirting-online-or-otherwise-help-your-marriage/ Psychology of Human Attachment Blog Sun, 08 Jan 2012 03:21:06 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Tara C http://www.drwendywalsh.com/blog/2009/10/can-flirting-online-or-otherwise-help-your-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-1478 Tara C Fri, 24 Sep 2010 02:59:35 +0000 http://www.drwendywalsh.com/blog/?p=391#comment-1478 I did agree.I flirted with a old high school boyfirend, and now I am heart broken. I did agree.I flirted with a old high school boyfirend, and now I am heart broken.

]]> By: Tim http://www.drwendywalsh.com/blog/2009/10/can-flirting-online-or-otherwise-help-your-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-137 Tim Tue, 27 Oct 2009 14:49:02 +0000 http://www.drwendywalsh.com/blog/?p=391#comment-137 A friend of mine says "You can read the menu of every restaurant in town, but you can only eat at home". It does take a certain level of self confidence and an awful lot of trust to enjoy the flirtation game. If you can't flirt when you are with your significant other, then there's some level of trust or self confidence that is at issue. You need to spend a little more time firming up things at home. You surely can't play the game only when your significant other isn't around. I'm always amazed at my friends who, when they get hooked up, immediately become paralyzed or control freaks. They land a great match, but then lose their ability to flirt, to have fun (which is part of why they caught the match in the first place) or conversely they demand that the match stop all the flirtation which attracted them in the first place. To belabor the point. I flatly state that a DUTY as a Chivalrous Man is to appreciate the effort that women go to to look good. Women love to be appreciated because they generally do spend a lot more time and effort on being attractive (see earlier comment about that being out of whack with the animal world where males are generally the attractive ones). (of course, my flirtatious part wants to admit that if Dr Walsh was my date I'd be so mesmerized by her grey blue eyes that I doubt I'd even look at the menu much less any other woman!) A friend of mine says “You can read the menu of every restaurant in town, but you can only eat at home”. It does take a certain level of self confidence and an awful lot of trust to enjoy the flirtation game. If you can’t flirt when you are with your significant other, then there’s some level of trust or self confidence that is at issue. You need to spend a little more time firming up things at home. You surely can’t play the game only when your significant other isn’t around.

I’m always amazed at my friends who, when they get hooked up, immediately become paralyzed or control freaks. They land a great match, but then lose their ability to flirt, to have fun (which is part of why they caught the match in the first place) or conversely they demand that the match stop all the flirtation which attracted them in the first place.

To belabor the point. I flatly state that a DUTY as a Chivalrous Man is to appreciate the effort that women go to to look good. Women love to be appreciated because they generally do spend a lot more time and effort on being attractive (see earlier comment about that being out of whack with the animal world where males are generally the attractive ones).

(of course, my flirtatious part wants to admit that if Dr Walsh was my date I’d be so mesmerized by her grey blue eyes that I doubt I’d even look at the menu much less any other woman!)

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