You’ve heard about oysters and caviar. How about champagne and a warm bath? Trust me none of these have been proven as a true aphrodisiac. In case you need a definition, an aphrodisiac is a substance that supposedly increases sexual desire. The name comes from Aphrodite, the Greek goddess of sensuality and love. Throughout history, many foods and drinks have had a reputation for making sex more attainable and/or pleasurable. However, from a historical and scientific standpoint, the alleged results are mainly due to a belief by their users that they would be effective. Yep, a placebo effect.
But there is one thing that works most of the time. I attest that the world’s most powerful aphrodisiac is one simple word. It is the word “No.” Spoken loudly or quietly, spoken in behavior or lack of behavior, the word “no” makes a sexual suitor sit up and take notice. The principal behind such wisdom is this. A psychologist’s mathematical formula for great sex is simply
Arousal + Obstacle = Erotic Sex
Some historians believe that the Catholic Church populated the planet with that equasion. The Church told people to say NO to sex for pleasure purposes and then out-lawed birth control. The result: Catholics in every corner of the globe.
Now think back to your most exciting sexual encounter. Was it intergenerational? Interracial? Was one person unavailable in some way? Nothing like an obstacle, be it a cultural or personal taboo, to get our juices flowing. Or, was it someone of a higher social status who was unattaianable in some way?
My advice: If you want to have wonderful sex, say NO to easily attainable sex.