Posts Tagged ‘Christmas’

Faith, Science and Superheroes in the Age of Anxiety

Saturday, December 25th, 2010

As I write this, my youngest daughter is minutes away from visual proof that an old man with a beard came down her chimney and made her dreams come true. My older daughter, a Twilight fan, plans to grow up to be a Vampire or, at least, a Werewolf. In Wisconsin this week, thousands are flocking to see the first ever, Catholic approved siting in the United States of an apparition of the Virgin Mary. Also today, millions of people around the world will not question the historic birth of a man who is reported to have walked on water and fed entire raves with only a couple bagels.

Is this belief in the supernatural all insanity? Not necessarily. It’s also very scientific.

Medical studies abound about the high survival rates of those with faith verses those without. Religiosity helps people cope with illness, and may even impede the progression of disease. One analyses looked 42 studies (surveying 126,000 patients) found that active religious involvement upped the odds of being alive at a follow-up appointment by 26 percent.  Another study out of Dartmouth medical school showed that people recovering from open heart surgery were three times more likely to survive if they had religious faith. Yet another study from Yale University showed that black women with breast cancer had lower survival rates than white women — unless they were religious. Then they were much more likely to outlive their white sisters. In India, doctors scratch their heads as babies born to strict Muslim families in poverty have higher survival rates than upper caste Hindus with less religion. And disaster stories abound of atheists who succumbed to death while those with faith calmly waited for divine intervention, or at least a rescue boat.

Apparently, if you do not believe in the supernatural, you can’t imagine your own supernatural abilities. You can’t become a superhero if you don’t believe in them.

That scientific evidence alone is enough for me to sign up. Except for that we are at a peculiar crossroads in our cultural evolution. A byproduct of education and economic prosperity is Atheism. The number of non-believers are on the rise as my educated peers replace pastors and church with psychologists and live sports events. And as traditional churches lose patrons a weird backlash of conservatism from the pulpit, a battle cry for survival, has morphed a sweet Sunday service into a diatribe against those who worship Gods in other costumes. Judging by heated theological conversations, joining a religion today seems more like signing up for war rather than finding inner peace.

We are in a time of great spiritual transition. We know faith can be powerful. We have relayed on religious communities to support our families. And, we are becoming too smart for our own good. What’s the answer?

Well, I live in California so there are lots of answers. California is the only state where you can interject a schooled debate on politics with a mention of a particular candidate’s astrological sign, and receive knowing nods. It’s a place where you can delay the signing of a real estate contract until Mercury is out of retrograde. And it’s a place where churches serve chai tea in walled gardens to gay parents, women in saris and men in $600 jeans. It’s a place where you can find any route to inner peace in this age of anxiety.

But perhaps the best place to find God isn’t in a scripture, a pew, or an ashram. It isn’t in the educated circles where money and good health turn religion and science into light cocktail party jousting. It is in the vulnerability of our peoples.

Last week a Haitian cabbie drove me from JFK airport into Manhattan. My fate in his hands for nearly an hour, we bonded over the state of the human condition. This man had not only been near ground zero at the moment planes hit the World Trade Center and watched people jump to their fate, he had witnessed hurricane Katrina first hand, and most recently been in Haiti, digging through the rubble of a school to pull out the bodies of his two nephews. The teens were just a year shy of graduation and my cabbie and his brother thought it safer to leave them in a good school in Haiti rather than expose them to the risks of young black men in New York city.

I couldn’t add much to the conversation. I didn’t have any theological quotes in my back pocket that might comfort him or douse the rising fire of anxiety in my own stomach. I was simply at a loss and could only muster one question. “Where is God?” I asked.

He was slowing to a red light when the stupid question popped out of me. There was a pause while he brought the cab to a full stop. Then he turned, looked through the tiny window that separated the herd from the shepherd, and actually smiled. “God is here,” he said. “You forget to look for him when things are going well. Then, when PEOPLE do bad things, you ask ‘Where is God?’ But he is here always.”

He (or she, or it) is certainly here under our Christmas tree today, just as he, or she, or it appears at Ramadan and Hanukkah. Fueled by human connections called love, God is the life-force that will sustain us in good times and horror. It’s the superhero in all of us. To eliminate God is to eliminate possibility.

Holiday Cheer, Recession Style – How to Spread Cheer Without Spending Money.

Friday, December 18th, 2009

imagesThe December holidays, no matter which religious history, are a way to create light in the darkest days of the year. It is a time to come together with family and friends and be thankful for our health and happiness.  With money tight for many American families, how can you lift your moods and spirits on a budget? Answer: Give of yourself and strengthen family connections. Here are ten ways to find meaning in the holidays without spending much dough.

1. Forgo gluttonous holiday parties with people you are not close to. The holidays have become a hectic time of forced festivities. A new dress and a bottle of champagne as a hostess gift, followed by an unwelcome hang over, might not be the way to make your life meaningful. Let this year be the year of peace, quiet, and intimate gatherings. A glass of wine by the fire with three people will provide more sustenance than a smoke-filled rave.

2. Find a new cause to give to… whether it’s flowers for an old folks home, or toys for underprivileged kids. This is the year to give to those who really need, and fill your heart with love.

3. Celebrate a lost family tradition or research and plan a new one. This is the year to go to your parents church or temple, or to find a soul enhancing experience that will become your tradition. Join a new age church. Meditate by candle light. The root of all December holidays is an urge to find safety and light in the cold, long nights of winter. Find a ritual that helps you feel peace.

4. Give homemade gifts. This is the year to resurrect your grandmother’s lost art of preserving food. Make sauces, jams, eggnog or baked goods. These items will be far more appreciated than anything manufactured in China.

5. Get the family together. Yes, even the ones you may not be so fond of. This is an opportunity to heal old emotional wounds, bond with kinfolk and connect with your roots. When I asked my eleven-year-old what is her favorite thing about Christmas, she didn’t miss a beat when she said, “Family.” Then she paused for a nano-second and followed up with, “Presents!”

6. The quantity of gifts is more exciting to kids than their value. Any parent who has endured the Christmas competition known as the “Present Tally,” can attest that kids love LOTS of gifts. We were never rich growing up but my mom always wrapped up socks, underwear, comic books, and chocolates. The presents were beautifully decorated and filled with anticipation and excitement. On Christmas day the joy was rarely in the gift’s expense, it was in the expansive array of colorful packages. Trust me, a $2 wind up toy takes on new meaning when it comes in a box within a box wrapped in shinny paper and bows.

7. Make a holiday TV special an event. Instead of going to an expensive Christmas show or leaving the TV on as background, rent a favorite Christmas DVD (mine is always WHITE CHRISTMAS) and make an appointment with the family. Make hot chocolate and popcorn and create a pillow theater on the floor. Kids will remember these moments of family closeness more than the details in the movie.

8. With the kids out of school and amusement parks being pricey, this is your chance to explore the museums in your own city. You might be pleasantly surprised to see how much kids can get out of an art museum.

9. Graham Cracker Ginger Bread houses. My tummy is full with one as I write this. Enough said.

10. Blast those Christmas carols! Music and song have a special influence on our psyche. Music can lift our spirits and heal our souls. Don’t hold back. Hum a carol yourself!