FOR MEN: Research Says Men Have Feelings

Happy young couple playing in hotel room while laying on bed inA new survey of 1000 American men, mounted by home entertainment specialists Home Wet Bar reconfirms what we who study male psycho-sexuality have known all along. Humans are wired to bond. And the desires for most men are for family and romantic partners, not the three “S’s” Sex, Sports and Stocks.

About three-quarters of the surveyed men in all age groups (18-55) say they would prefer an evening with a partner to a night out with friends. Twice as many men say they would prefer a date night to a sports night, and about two-thirds of the men say that in general they prefer being in a relationship over being single. And about forty per cent of men say they always feel romantic, not just when they are in the mood for sex.

The big take away for both men and women? The high supply sexual economy that dominates the American dating scene does a dis-service to men. It creates a very narrow bandwidth of acceptable male sexual behavior, that is, take all sex, any sex, all any cost. Evolutionary psychologists have found that more than half of the human species mates for life, and far from being promiscuous, many others have two or three long stints of monogamy during their life spans. Clearly, men have feelings when it comes to sex. In fact, in Dr. Andrew Smiler’s book, Challenging Casanova, research shows that only about five per cent of American men are considered players, Don Juans, or Casanovas. The rest get charged by the other F-word — feelings.

One humorously interesting piece of data from the Home Wet Bar survey is the finding that two-thirds of the male respondents said they have never lied about the number of sexual partners they have had. As sex researchers know, both genders notoriously lie on sexual surveys. Cultural pressures force women to under-report the number of sexual partners they have had and men are pressured to over-report. So the two-thirds of men who say they never lie about this? They’re probably lying. 🙂

DR. WENDY WALSH IS AVAILABLE FOR TELEPHONE RELATIONSHIP COACHING. TO SCHEDULE, PLEASE CLICK HERE AND COMPLETE THE BOX ON THE LEFT. SHE’LL PERSONALLY RESPOND.

Screen Shot 2015-06-09 at 8.18.56 PM

WANT TO KNOW MORE ABOUT LOVE AND SEX? GET 50% OF MY ONLINE WORKSHOP “THE PSYCHOLOGY OF HUMAN MATING” USE PROMO CODE “LOVE 50” CLICK HERE

 

2 thoughts on “FOR MEN: Research Says Men Have Feelings

  1. Men have feelings, and often are much more sensitive to perceived criticism than men, in my opinion. Men are also much more prone to anger, obviously due to their testosterone.

    What was surprising though was the statistic on the “players” – I would have pegged it more at 20% or so.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *