When It Hurts The Most, You’re Growing The Most

Fumo dalle orecchieRelationships, whether they be business, romantic or family, are the single biggest environment that we place our tender psyches. Supportive relationships can help us grow, thrive and even live longer. But relationships filled with constant conflict, cruel put downs, or dismissive comments can actually make us sick. Simply put, there is probably no bigger stressor for our bodies than a bad relationship.

That’s why we need to listen to out body when our head and heart are wanting to stay attached. Our body doesn’t lie to us. In fact, stomachs are particularly clairvoyant. Psychologists have long referred to our intestine as our second brain. It’s where the term “gut feeling” comes from.

Here’s an exercise for those wrestling with the “should I stay or should I go” debate.

1. Lie down and close your eyes.
2. Take ten deep breaths. Relax fully.
3. Picture your pain. Check in with your body. Find it and pay attention to it.
3. Now imagine your life without the person you are tangling with.
4. Pay attention to your stomach — does it ease ever-so-slightly?

If the answer is “yes,” then it’s time to listen to your body. There’s an old saying, “When it hurts the most, you are growing the most.” In other words, personal growth isn’t pain free. In fact, when you are in intense psychological pain, you may be on the cusp of a big break through.

The only mistake in life, is making the same mistake again. You can learn through every relationship. Congratulations. You’re growing.

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