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FOR WOMEN: Dear Miley Cyrus and Sinead O’Connor


I saw your Facebook and Twitter inter change today. Sinead, I commend you for taking a risk to be so publicly honest about the exploitation of Miley by the music industry. But, you know, Miley is in the bubble right now and can’t hear you. Yes, she looks at you as a role model and harkened to your “Nothing Compares 2U” video with her hyped up cartoon face in her “Wreaking Ball” video, but she is in the land of no “No’s” where she can’t make the distinction between art and commercialism. You and I have the gift of aged wisdom that she doesn’t have yet.

My ten-year-old daughter Jones watched Miley’s Wreaking Ball video and Sinead’s Nothing Compares 2U with me. Here’s my interview with her:

IMG_1640Q: Are you a fan of Miley Cyrus? Why or why not?

Jones: I liked her on only Hannah Montana. Then she got inappropriate.

Q: Why don’t you like that?

Jones: Because nobody is supposed to see anybody naked. You can only be naked if you are a baby or to your husband or boyfriend.

Q: Why can’t you be naked on the internet?

Jones: It’s very dangerous because teenagers might think that’s okay and they might do it. Then everybody might do it.

Q: Why is that bad?

Jones: Even Native Americans covered up most of their body because it’s fragile and those are the parts to make love. So they cover them up so people they don’t want to make love with won’t see. That would be embarrassing and it might make people be stalkers.

Q: What about Miley’s music?

Jones: I can’t really appreciate the music with the video because it makes me think bad about her. So I put on the lyrics only videos that the fans make. Miley, you shouldn’t do videos like this because it’s not a nice art.

Q: What did you think about Sinead’s video?

Jones: It showed real emotion. It wasn’t all fake. I could tell that they were real tears.

Q: Which artist do you like the most?

Jones: Sinead, because she seems very nice and smart. I don’t like to see Miley naked.

FOR SINGLES: The Facebook Factor in Love

quien-ve-mis-fotos-en-facebook-1If you saw the movie The Social Network, you know that Facebook founder Mark Zuckerberg’s big stroke of genius came when he decided to post users’ relationship statuses along with their pictures.

I wonder if he could have envisioned how much Facebook has influenced our love lives today.

That pesky “relationship status” has come to haunt as many philanders on the make as women hoping the man they are sleeping with will publicly declare them. And the question of when to let a new acquaintance into your online social landscape has given pause to those who wonder about social rules. Finally, Facebook postings have replaced girlfriend-to-girlfriend research when it comes to researching a new male conquest.

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FOR SINGLES: Can You Have a Real Relationship with 5000 Friends?

Today is a milestone day in the world of digital connecting. My personal Facebook page welcomed its final, 5000th friend. For those in the brand-building world, this is but an early blip in the journey toward mass media penetration. But for me, this is something special.

You see, I don’t have the giant media machine of a Kim Kardashian, Lady Gaga or Oprah. Most TV and music performers have me way beat with millions of fans, friends and followers, anyway. But I have something else. I have real connections. You are real people.

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Connecting in The Age of Technology

New Tools. No Rules. That’s what I call the technological revolution.

I have three stories to tell that illustrate how technology is affecting the way we date, mate, and relate.  Story number one comes from the wisdom of a middle school girl, with one entire school semester of dating experience under her belt and a lifetime of tech training. She reminded me that the game of love has a whole new high-tech playing field. I was having dinner in a California Pizza Kitchen with three twelve-year-old girls and I received a text from a 47-year-old guy I’d been dating for about six weeks.

“Oooh” sang my own daughter in an age-old schoolgirl taunt “Is that from your boyfriend?”

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Are Facebook Friends Real?

When E.M. Forster wrote the famous line in Howards End, “Only connect,” I wonder if he could have envisioned the phenomenon of Facebook.


woman using laptop computer

Dr. Wendy Walsh: Like most of you, when I first logged onto the site, I felt nervous. This was a new social world with blurry rules of conduct. The lack of boundaries and potential for social and business gaffs was intimidating. The instant access to and from people who crossed our paths in a station of life where we no longer reside, was a strange event. (Yes, I have received some sheepish apologies and sent some myself.)

I’d always mistrusted technology. It felt like a detached form of communication. What with the time lag, the lack of voice tone and body language, who could really know what was being said, anyway? Add to that the mass distribution of personal blurbs, and this whole thing felt inauthentic. Were we all just narcissists jumping on our own soapbox looking for our 15 minutes in our small pond? And what of those whose ponds had become lakes and oceans — the non-celebrity Facebook users who have thousands of “friends”? How could that be a connection? E.M. Forster also wrote this in Howards End: “I believe we shall come to care about people less and less, Helen. The more people one knows the easier it becomes to replace them.”

I watched my news feed for weeks, frozen with thoughts of how and why.

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